Love the One You're With

I just finished reading Love the One You're With by Emily Giffin...for the second time. It's funny how your views change when times passes. Maybe my thoughts and opinions changed because i'm getting older, or maybe it's life experiences. In a very short summery, the book is about a woman that has to pick between an old love and her husband. Both men make her feel two different ways, like two different people. She loves both, deeply loves both, but the question is, what life does she love more? So my question for all of you is this, do you think you can be in love with two different people at the very same moment? Has it ever happened to you? Her first love abandoned her, left her heartbroken. When you are left heartbroken you feel like you are left with nothing. It has happened to the best of us. But just say you get the chance to "rekindle" things with the former love of your life..would you? Or, would you already know you were better off with that person that loves you enough to stay with you, not only through the relationships hard times, but your personal hard times. If your spouse went to go see their former love of their life would that be the last straw for you? When I read the book the first time a few years ago I totally agreed with Ellen, go after what the heart wants. Go after that past love of your life. The heart wants want the heart wants. But reading it this time around I have a totally different mindset. The heart may want what the heart wants. You may need closure that you never got. Or maybe your wondering if the life you chose is actually the life for you. So this time around I was wanting her to be 100% loyal to her husband. He was a good man and never did her wrong. BUT maybe if I was in that situation I wouldn't be able to deny seeing the "one that got away". Maybe I would do the same thing. Give the heart what it has been asking for. Maybe, it can make the relationship more strong then it was before. Maybe you just need to figure out for yourself that your life is great. Your relationship is everything you could ever want. Let's get back to reality though, if you flew to go see your ex lover I don't think your current relationship could be fixed with just a kiss and an "i'm sorry". So how about we leave the past in the past and the present where it is. If they will leave you once chances are they will leave you again. And, if they just figured out you are the "one", they truly love you then, well, they don't deserve you anyways. So let's keep our ex lovers in the past where they belong. Always look ahead and cherish the wonderful times you had with that person. But look forward to the times you will be having with that one person that deserves the greatness in you. I know i'm still waiting for that person to sweep me off my feet the way my first love did. Until then I will look forward to the future, and think fondly about the past that I wish to keep in the past.

P.S. If your a lady I totally recommend this book! Actually I recommend all of Emily Giffins books!

P.S.S. If anyone is reading my blog, I would love for you to share your experience if you can relate to this topic!

Eye to Eye

As a single girl I know we are pretty much always aware of when there is a cute boy with in a half mile radius. Or maybe it's just the girls that are boy crazy like me. The longer you are single the higher the radius gets. Sometimes it feels like we will be single forever. And I mean forever.  Then there are some days we lose hope in ever finding a boy again. There is that moment when you are out in a random place and you make that special eye contact with that especially cute boy. It could just be eye contact for those few second. Or you could be in the same place with that person for an hour and constantly be making eye contact with that person. Well what happens when you start thinking ok, I know he is looking at me because he feels the attraction too. But then you start over thinking it (and as a girl I know we do this too). What if we start thinking wait, what if he just keeps looking at me because he knows I keep looking at him and he is weird'ed out by it. And you want so badly for him to come up to you and just hi. I'm not sure if this is a girl thing or a southern thing. But it is not acceptable for the girl to go up to the guy. That is a guys job to peruse the girl. Growing up my mom would not even let me call a boy in the off chance they gave me their number. The boy had to call me. So that same rule of my moms began to be my new rule. I will not call a guy first. So the same rule applies in real life. I will not go up to a guy. I know people say times have changed and it's ok. But to me it's not ok. So then you just have to wait until they come up to you. But what happens when they don't come up to you. You are sitting there waiting for him to come up to you because you know he felt that same attraction that you felt during those 2 seconds you shared together. Then he just walks right out the door and now you will never know what could of been. That random boy sitting there drinking his coffee could have been the love of your life, or someone you have a great relationship with, or maybe it would of never gone past that first date. But you will still wonder what could of been. Now that boy will forever be a stranger and you can wonder if those 2 seconds were anything. Then you start thinking I should of just said something to him. But that is the boys job. But some people think if it was meant to be it will happen. So we just sit here and wait for someone else to walk into our lives. Or maybe they are already in our lives. Regardless that cute boy you saw you will never know his story, and he will never know yours. Sometimes I just wish if a boy feels that same connection he would just come up to me. Because you will never know what could of been until you just go up and try. So needless to say i'm still waiting on my Prince Charming. Or my version on Prince Charming anyways.

Signs Signs, Everywhere a Sign

During the summer everyone wants to be single. And during the winter everyone wants to have somebody. It's a lonely exhausting cycle. Relationships are exhausting and being single is exhausting. When you are in a relationship you are always worrying about things about your relationship..the struggles..the problems. When you are single you are worrying about dating. Is he thinking about you? Is he wanting to text you? Does he actually like you or are you the girl on the "B" list when he is actually thinking about the girl on his "A" list. When you see an EX is it a sign? Even if you see them more then once in a day in two random places? Are they thinking about you while your thinking about them for those few moments you are in the same establishment? Are the signs in your head? Do people actually believe in "signs"? I'm not even sure if I believe in signs anymore. I know I use to...But the older I get the more I think maybe the signs are in my head. When couples get together during the Fall/Winter is it because they truly feel a connection to one another or because they are both lonely enough to make up a connection. While all your friends are in relationships it seems like a lot of pressure to find someone because were getting to the age that we need to be settling down. We always had a timeline in our heads..and well reality is, is that the timeline is not matching up to the reality. So maybe we can make our own timelines. We should all be strong enough to hold out for that one person that brings the best out of you. The one that gives you butterflies. Sometimes it's hard to not look at the past because chances are those people that use to give you butterflies still do. But just because they give you butterflies does not mean you should go back to those butterflies. Just because you see someone twice in one day does not mean you should go back to that person. It is not a sign to fall back in old habits. Maybe even bad habits. Just because your "timeline" is running out does not mean you need resort to someone you use to be with. This post was just a big fat mess. I have many thoughts going through my head that would be too many thoughts to put all in one post. So let me just leave you with one thing. Although this is the relationship season, don't just go back to someone because you want someone. Wait for that special someone! Things don't have to be as complicated as we make them...But that's part of us humans. We make things complicated when in fact they are very simple. If your getting lonely go out with your girls and get a drink. Or even get a pint of Ben & Jerry's and rent Magic Mike and remember your waiting for someone as hot as Channing Tatum.

New York State of Mind

I have always wanted to go visit New York, then I have always wanted to have a real, big girl job in New York. I have always wanted to live like Carrie Bradshaw. Have friends like Carrie be single in the city, and sip on cosmopolitans as well. I wanted to look fabulous and be fabulous in the city! Some of my favorite TV shows and movies have been set in New York City. Sex in the City, Gossip Girl, Friends, Serendipity, Something Borrowed, and many more! So my expectations are pretty high, as most the people in these shows and what not are financially well off, and only do fabulous things! Reality is, I would probably be that fabulous girl living in Queens and making my own kind of "fabulous Life". I have a trip coming up to New York on Thursday. My expectations are already different then my reality. If you live in America, then you should probably already know about hurricane Sandy. As of right now 1.5 million Americans don't have power, and i'm complaining about my soon to be vacation. Here is a little list of thing I hope to see if my trip actually happens!

Go visit the Empire hotel
Go to Central Perk
Empire State building
Eat a hot dog
Slice of Pizza
Go to Central Park
Brooklyn Bridge
See the street Sex and the City was filmed on
Go into Barney's
China Town, Little Italy

The list goes on but those are just a few of the things I would like to see! I will let you know when I get back what I actually got to see! Thanks for stopping by! Everyone on the east cost are in my thoughts and prayers!

Hocus Pocus

As a child I remember always watching Hocus Pocus, and my dad would always carve the pumpkin, and we would just take the "guts" out...Now that my family is expanding and we are all getting older there is not as many as the "traditions" anymore. Still when I see Hocus Pocus it takes me back. It takes me back to candy corns, my mom making her own children's costumes, trick-or-treating, and gathering around with the neighborhood kids. Even in high school & college, when my dad wasn't carving the pumpkins it would be my  boyfriend was carving, and I still would be taking out the "guts"... But this year is was different. I had no one to carve it for me.. I had to figure this one out on my own. It wasn't a TOTAL disaster...Just a small one. I wanted to carve Mickey's face because well..I'm a Disney freak! It could of come out better...but also came out much worse! I have pictures to prove it! I love Halloween! I love it because for one day you can be ANYTHING you want to be. Let your imagination go wild! I HATE haunted houses that you have to pay for..BUT if it is a "paranormal" haunted house i'm totally game! Do I believe in the paranormal world? I don't NOT believe in it. I have seen a few things that maybe questionable... But maybe it's all just in our minds. Half of what we see and hear is just in our minds...I'm pretty much getting off track here..I'm not sure if this post is about Halloween in general or about my pumpkin..or maybe it was suppose to be about how much things change from a childhood to adult hood? Who knows. But what I do know is that when I look back to Halloween as a child, I will always remember standing on the back deck, with my dad cleaning out the "guts" while he does the rest. What is something you remember about your childhood Halloween?

Pop the Cherry

This is my very first blog post. I'm not sure what this blog will evolve into. It has potential to become any sort of blog. I may hate it or may love it, all I know is many of my, sweet Facebook friends are starting to blog and love it! It may be about my life, or may turn into things i'm interested in, DIY project,  pictures, maybe even about new music I discover. As it feels like many of my peers are off getting married and making their own new families, i'm here just trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I'm still trying to figure out how life works and so far the last few weeks have been very bumpy, but I have faith that it will turn around. So i'm thinking this blog will be more about thing I enjoy such as books, recipes, DIY projects, music, and a little bit of true life in there. We should all stop and smell the roses, it's about the simple things in life right? So, lets keep the simple things simple, and the complex things complex. Enjoy life for what it is! For anyone that is reading please bare with me until I figure out this whole blogging thing. Thank you and goodnight!